Titus 2:4 "Older
women are to teach the young women to love their...children."
Twenty Free Tips For Single Moms
1. YOU
Choose Which Battles Are Worth Fighting.
With the kids, it’s usually over clothes, food, bath time. What's
is your biggest battle right now?
What is your
biggest battle with your EX?
With your extended
family it’s usually over attitudes, expectations, etc. What is
the toughest?
2. YOU
Prioritize Your
Life. Purge! Decide on and
list
five important areas in your life, then put a number
beside each as to their order of importance.
How much time do you put toward each area?
3. YOU
Set Realistic Goals To Help You Stay Focused.
Set one short-term goal & when
you believe you can attain it. Set one longer-term goal & when
you believe you can attain it.
Now break
each goal up into daily, weekly or monthly “steps” to get there.
4. You
Ask for Help
in a New Way. Bartering
is the same as money. You may make a second casserole for a
friend if she drives your kids with hers to soccer. You'll be
helping someone else while getting help. List what two or
three things you need to ask help about &
think of a way to barter or trade.
5. Talk
Out Your
Deep Feelings,
but Not to Your Children.
Children are not
'little adults.' They cannot solve adult problems, but you will
benefit by joining a single mom's support group. Also remember
God never sleeps or grows tired of you calling on Him.
What’s one
area you dislike talking about? Why?
6. Step Back
When Overwhelmed.
Breathe. Wait. "Sleep
on it" whenever possible.
Many times we procrastinate what we dread or
dislike. This leads to being overwhelmed and in a crunch.
What overwhelms you the fastest? Why? Write down how
you can move from overwhelmed to control. Reread #3.
7. Every
month (or week) take an hour, half-hour or half-day off for YOU.
Really focus on yourself. Pay attention to YOU.
Read, sit by a lake, polish your
nails, whatever…
What’s one or two things you WISHED you
could do & not feel selfish?
8. Dream.
List some dreams you have.
Next to each dream, rate 1-5 (5 be absolutely possible) which
you think are possible to come true.
9. Maintain
& Make new Friendships.
List five really
important traits you want in a friend,
like truth, loyalty, humor. The more your friend shares
your important values, the better and longer-lasting your
friendship will be.
10. Recognize and Enjoy
Every Freedom
You Have.
For example, you don’t have to answer to a
spouse or watch what HE wants to watch.
List other freedoms that come to mind that
you have because you ARE single.
11. Accept
You’ll make
Mistakes, but Determine to
Learn from Mistakes.
Are there one or two mistakes
you keep making over & over? You’ll never progress until you
learn and stop repeating this mistake. What's
the ONE mistake you're most afraid of making? Why?
12. Laugh, Even
When You
Don’t FEEL Like
it. Health experts say smiling
or laughing, even when you don’t feel like it has a positive
effect on your health. What makes you laugh?
13. Forgive Knowing
it is not Forgetting nor Excusing the Error.
Decide today you will begin to stop living in
anger and resenting behavior. Correct what you can. Accept the
rest. Beginning NOW, forgive yourself, your Ex,
your children, the rude clerk, you in-laws, etc. List people you
find challenging to forgive right now. Ask
yourself why is it so difficult to
forgive and go on? Is it worth living in anger?
14. Punch up Tiny
Luxuries. This means you can
exist or LIVE. Broaden your ideas and expectations. You can buy
more cheap or much less with quality. Which do you choose? Why?
Where would you like to begin to practice
this?
15. Resolve Concerns
One at a Time.
Take one problem or challenge at a time.
You only have so much emotional reserve. What’s the most central
concern? Is it something you need professional help with?
16. MAKE
Time for FUN.
An inexpensive hobby, such as reading
(with or without the children), walking or “shooting baskets.”
What do you do for FUN?
How
often do you have FUN?
Do you PLAN fun in every day? Why or Why not?
17. Show Tenderness To
Your Children.
You’re the one responsible for discipline, making them eat their
vegetables, do their chores (each child should have at least ONE
daily chore), and other “unpleasant” things. To counter this,
hug them often to show tenderness. Do
you physically touch your children in a tender-parenting way,
for example giving “butterfly kisses” at bedtime; giving them
foot message; LOTS of kisses & hugs, etc.
List the ways
you show tenderness DAILY.
Is showing
motherly tenderness difficult for you? If so, why?
18.
Live a life of Integrity.
Simply said, "say what you mean & mean
what you say." Be honest with
yourself, your children and others. The Truth will set you free
indeed! Be a woman of your word. Do the right thing. Treat
others the way you want to be treated. Be
moral.
Teach by example.
19. Date carefully.
Living alone where your children are safe
is better than with a man who may molest or be cruel to you or
them. Look past his physical attributes to his character.
Investigate thoroughly and carefully. Is dating an issue? Is
remarriage?
20. Maintain a personal relationship
with God. Talk to God through
prayer. Ask Him for forgiveness, wisdom and personal growth
daily. Read and STUDY the Bible daily. Join a
loving, caring, accepting church.
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